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Thank you everyone for making my day!

4 messages in this thread | Started on 2004-09-26

Thank you everyone for making my day!

From: dasprite222 (dasprite222@yahoo.com) | Date: 2004-09-26 18:48:16 UTC
I saw this bit about Bob Weasely (er, Heasely!) on accident this
morning, since I almost never read all of a digest on a weekend (not
when I could be letterboxing!). I also thought I was misreading and
read it again and again, with a huge sinking feeling. I AM African
American and I happen to enjoy letterboxing, but this suddenly
tainted my whole world, as do ALL the reminders of racial hatred that
pop up just when I'm finding a place of full tolerance. We've been at
parties where someone has said something like this and I had to sit
there clutching my husband's hand in a death grip to keep him seated
while trying to politely scold the speaker and NOT ruin everyone's
good time. It's awful to feel like my reaction is watched by the
world and even worse to watch my husband, a Caucasian male, have to
suffer with me because HIS anger won't help either (he gets
the "well, of COURSE it makes YOU mad...your WIFE'S black" comments).

I was ready to call him in to show him this atrocity, to sit and try
to understand how you can be ignorant and still have a computer, how
you can get into a group meant for happy things and still be a
racist, how you could be so BLIND in your racism to not know enough
to at LEAST keep comments like that to yourself, that you could
actually be so backward as to think that there wouldn't be ONE person
of color reading (or that you wouldn't CARE)...and then I read all
the subsequent posts.

Folks, I don't know if you've ever been in a bad situation in school
with a bully teasing you and all your friends no where in sight, but
if you have, then you can remember that feeling when the teacher
showed up or a stranger stepped in and said, "Hey, why don't you just
leave her/him alone, man?" Not only did one person step in, but a TON
of people! I don't know if you're all white or black (or
fuschia/blueberry/grape!), but the fact that you SPOKE UP and STOPPED
him so that he KNEW he'd done wrong (the way you have to with all
bullies) was enough to bring me to tears. I don't think ANYONE
besides my husband has ever really come to my rescue in such a
case...they've always been too embarrassed to do more than half
chuckle and say, "Oh, that's bad...don't say that" but NEVER have I
seen outrage. I felt ashamed for ever having thought that I'd have to
quit this hobby.

If any of you ever comes out Western NY way, be sure to get a hug
from this sprite, whose wings you all brought the breeze back under!
May all your boxes be FFs with brand new hitchhikers in them and
handmade stamps so well thought out that they bring you to
tears...you're all the best! :-)

The (greatly moved) Sprite and the (finally unclenching his fists)
Highlander

--- In letterbox-usa@yahoogroups.com, Hikers_n_ Hounds
wrote:
> Thank you very much Mark. Welcome back safe and sound.
>
>
> --- Mark Pepe wrote:
>
> > One more thing - this Bob Heasley character, real or
> > a personna, has
> > been banned.
> >
> > Mark Pepe
> >
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Re: Thank you everyone for making my day!

From: Tara (tarasdsu@yahoo.com) | Date: 2004-09-27 04:30:41 UTC
--- In letterbox-usa@yahoogroups.com, "dasprite222"
wrote:
I don't know if you're all white or black (or
> fuschia/blueberry/grape!),

Man, that fuschia/blueberry/grape thing really cracked me up! I
would have stepped in to say something too...but I kept reading what
he wrote over and over again trying to figure out what the heck he
was saying. I may be naive, but I don't even understand where he
was going...??? Once people started calling racism, I read it a few
more times, thinking "what the heck?!?"
Anyhow, I'm glad he's gone...I didn't realize he was the "stealing
the OH Lb" guy too. Good riddance. :P
Tara (still chuckling about the f/b/g comment :D)


Re: [LbNA] Thank you everyone for making my day!

From: MaryAnn Lockard (mizscarlet731@yahoo.com) | Date: 2004-09-28 11:20:19 UTC-07:00
--- dasprite222 wrote:

> I don't know if you're all white or black
> (or
> fuschia/blueberry/grape!), but the fact that you
>
Just like our stamps you find in log books we are all
many colors, some of us are hand carved and a little
rough around the edges and some store bought and
elegant, but we're all boxers.
Mizscarlet
>
>




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Re: [LbNA] Thank you everyone for making my day!

From: Anna Lisa Yoder (annalisa@fast.net) | Date: 2004-10-04 17:21:25 UTC-04:00
Especially to Sprite-- I'm sorry I didn't see your post earlier, right after it was written. I've been traveling every weekend in Sept. (one of the gatherings having been a very wonderful, COLORful women's retreat in NC) and still have over 300 posts to catch up on. I'm so glad I didn't just delete them, as I'd have missed this one. Thank you for expressing yourself, all of the emotions you went through, because it helps me (and I hope others too) to get the courage I need sometimes to go with my intuition and stick my neck out to speak out against ugliness the way I should. It made ME cry to hear that you so rarely have had people confront these racist issues head-on. I had read with horror the Heasley-Weasley post, and the quick shut-down thanks to Mark, and others' disgust over the original. I couldn't believe that guy called himself "Mensan" Bob. Mensan my foot!

I have spoken out in many ways, but in 11 years of living in an average-sized, mostly decent town and having tenants & workmates of many colors, I have seen a real eyeful when it comes to racial issues. I'm sorry to say that every one of the bad experiences except one, had to do with policemen who made wrong assumptions due to their own racism. I've heard too many first-hand stories from my tenants and workmates which made my hair bristle--things that took place within blocks of my house or on my street. Even though I was not present, I wish now that I had written letters to the police dept. and/or gone to speak with the officers who made offensive assumptions. I wrote quite a few letters in my head, but never got around to really writing and sending them. Not out of fear, just out of plain negligence. After reading your post, I realize it's partly negligence like mine that allows that kind of ugliness to still have a grip in our society. So thank you again, Sprite, for the encouragement we need to remind eachother that it matters, every little bit. Rather than bemoan what I haven't done, I plan to get to work and find out whether these things are still going on (we have a new chief of police & I hope it has helped, but don't know) and will not allow myself to neglect things like this again because I won't be able to stand the regret. Thanks again for the (gentle) kick in the pants! If anyone wants to know the particular stories, email me privately & I'll tell you. I don't want to get flamed here for going on about non-letterboxing. --lunaryakketyact

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